#coaching #management #human-management #communication

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Coaching is helping someone reach a conclusion themselves by asking questions rather than providing answers.

To be effective it requires the recipient to a) have the skills b) have the motivation.

Stay curious a little longer, rush to action and advice-giving a little more slowly.

~ Michael Bungay Stanier, The Coaching Habit

There are tons of opportunities in daily life to be coach-like. Make it a habit. Tame the advice monster.

Create the habit by telling yourself “When this happens” “instead of” “I will”

Be lazy, be often, be curious.

Use the 7 questions to structure coaching:

• What’s on you mind
• And what else
• What’s the real challenge here for you
• What do you want
• What am I going to say yes to, and if I say yes to that what must I say no to?
• How can I help a
• What was most useful for you?

Use the 3Ps to dig: Project, People, Pattern of behavior

Use the Bookend to be impactful: start quick (whats on your mind), finish strong (what was useful for you)

prepare for coaching - adjust behavior

_What was the situation?

What was the observed behavior?

From their point of view?

What is the gap?

What would have been a more desirable behavior?

What conclusion do I want to drive?

What questions can help the coachee need to realize issues with observed behavior?

What questions can help him figure what could have been better?

What mentoring do I want to give?

Base plan:

• How did it go?
• What do you think was the goal/the person needing?
• What was your response? How did you approach?
• Do you think it fulfilled the goal?
• What could you have done differently?
• Looking forward: what will you do? How will you make sure you do it?
• Do I give a piece of advice?

links

Coach in One to one meetings

Be empathetic (#5) during coaching.

Determine if coaching is the appropriate Leadership styles

references

• Coaching habit is coach Michael's book and training.

• Carnegie / How to win friends and influence people has several rules related to that:

  • Show respect to other people’s opinion, don’t say “you’re wrong”
  • Be a good listener, encourage people to talk about themselves.
  • Let people realize things by themselves - walk the realization process and feel like ideas are theirs.
  • Appeal to nobler motives
  • Challenge people: appeal to the desire to excel
  • Ask questions, drive the thinking of the other person towards what you think they should do… without telling them directly (so they think it’s their own idea).
  • Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to

• [1]: see discussion with Philippe on 2020-12-05-22-43-58